Newsflash…I’m Not Talking About What You Do to Your Hair After You Shampoo
So what is a Conditioner?
To be to the point…it’s anything that conditions you. A set of circumstances or messages that you are repeatedly exposed to will condition you to believe certain things.
If you have attempted to do something multiple times and it hasn’t worked out very well, that conditions you to think you can’t do it.
If you have been told over and over that you are not a certain way, you begin to believe its true.
If you have been repeatedly exposed to messaging that says you have to be a certain way, or act a certain way, in order to be successful, and you don’t see that in yourself, this will condition you that you can’t be successful.
Social Scientists Have Done Studies That Show…
That you and I heard something negative about ourselves 150,000 times by the time we were 17 years old.
How do you think that affects us?
How may times do you need to hear that you can’t be or do something before you start to believe it?
Think about the mindset of a five-year-old child versus the mindset of an eighteen-year-old. If you ask the five-year-old what they want to do when they grow up, you will hear all kinds of wonderful answers. There will be no consideration of what’s NOT possible.
When you ask an eighteen-year-old, they will have little to say typically. At this point they have been so conditioned to believe that there are NOT endless possibilities, that they will have a hard time thinking without limits. At this point, they have been conditioned to look at things from a limited perspective.
My Conditioning Led to Near Disaster…
Hearing all the negative on top of my introversion, low self-esteem, and anxiety, had me in a place where I had no belief that anything good was possible for me. This perspective dominated my thinking and therefore my actions until I was in my late 20s. Not only did I accomplish very little, but truly there are several scenarios where I was fortunate just to survive my actions, and that’s not an overblown statement.
In my late 20s I was first exposed to the idea of personal development and the discovery that all these limitations were only real if I chose them to be real.
I started the re-conditioning process then. I read books and listened to speakers like a madman and then began to apply myself as if I would be successful instead of with the expectation that I wouldn’t be.
It didn’t change how I saw things right away, but it did change the nature of my approach to things. Instead of starting things and then quitting because it was hard and I believed that was just another indicator that it wouldn’t work out…
I started things with the resolve to keep going. Through continuous work on self and consistent work on whatever I was doing, I began to see different outcomes.
Things started to work for me. Why?
Because my thinking was different. I was conditioning myself to succeed. I was conditioning myself to see the good in myself and work on that. I was conditioning myself to allow other’s opinions to remain only that…their opinion and not my reality.
You are capable of much more than you can imagine, and conditioning yourself properly will help you dramatically moving forward.
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Many Blessings, Todd
P.S. “3 Circles Living” will not only help you condition yourself properly, but it will also give you an exact formula for achieving your richest life possible. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen!
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